Katie, I loved reading this. I've just moved for the second time in my life and I've been missing all my friends who are back home. It's not easy to make friends as adults — you've nailed my feelings and all the thoughts swirling in my head so well.
Esp the bit about holding yourself back. I'm grateful and lucky to have a set of friends like they show on TV — but it's been a decade in the making and now suddenly, we're all in different countries (and across continents too) so it's super jarring. Finding people to connect with always begins with me showing my best bits but that's not who I am really, I'm all the funny and wonky and good and bad bits but I don't have the time (or the effort/energy to give) like I did as a teenager/kid.
You're also right. It's not as bad as it sounds and I'm glad you have a solid set of friends and it's important to know that friendships come in different shapes and sizes. Putting in effort is all it takes to keep them going. :')
Here's to friendships and if you ever need another one, I'd love to get to know you and hopefully join your circle of friends too.
Ah, glad it resonated with you. It's such a weird thing and I think so many people feel this way, but somehow we all think other people have stronger friendship groups? There are some people who do, for sure, but think most of us are just bumbling along!!
Katie, I loved reading this. I've just moved for the second time in my life and I've been missing all my friends who are back home. It's not easy to make friends as adults — you've nailed my feelings and all the thoughts swirling in my head so well.
Esp the bit about holding yourself back. I'm grateful and lucky to have a set of friends like they show on TV — but it's been a decade in the making and now suddenly, we're all in different countries (and across continents too) so it's super jarring. Finding people to connect with always begins with me showing my best bits but that's not who I am really, I'm all the funny and wonky and good and bad bits but I don't have the time (or the effort/energy to give) like I did as a teenager/kid.
You're also right. It's not as bad as it sounds and I'm glad you have a solid set of friends and it's important to know that friendships come in different shapes and sizes. Putting in effort is all it takes to keep them going. :')
Here's to friendships and if you ever need another one, I'd love to get to know you and hopefully join your circle of friends too.
Ah, glad it resonated with you. It's such a weird thing and I think so many people feel this way, but somehow we all think other people have stronger friendship groups? There are some people who do, for sure, but think most of us are just bumbling along!!